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Today, I want to talk about why we sometimes clash with our partners—even when we love each other deeply. It’s not just about “he never does the dishes” or “she talks too much.” It goes way deeper.
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1. We Bring Our Past Into Marriage
When we enter a relationship, we unconsciously carry everything we learned from our parents:
- How to express emotions (or suppress them).
- How to handle conflict (yelling, silent treatment, compromise).
- What an “ideal” husband or wife “should” be.
Example: If mom always sacrificed herself for the family, a woman might repeat that pattern—even if it drains her.
2. Why Do We Get Mad at What We Chose?
Sound familiar? “He’s so passive!” (but you initially picked a laid-back guy). Or “She’s so controlling!” (but you were drawn to her confidence).
Our brains love familiarity—even if it’s uncomfortable. Because “bad but predictable” feels safer than “unknown but potentially better.”
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3. Leadership = Security
Every couple has a dynamic: one leads, the other supports. If roles are unclear, power struggles begin.
Fix it: Talk openly about:
- Who handles money better?
- Who plans dates/getaways?
- Who’s the emotional anchor during stress?
4. How to Grow Without Fighting
- Spot your patterns. Ask: “Am I doing this because it’s me … or because my parents did?”
- Use “I feel” statements. Not “You’re annoying,” but “I feel upset when…”
- Let your partner be different. Their way of solving problems isn’t wrong—just not your way.
Bottom Line
Relationships aren’t about “fixing” each other. They’re about understanding yourself and learning to dance together—even if your rhythms don’t match.
How’s your relationship journey going? Drop a comment! 😘
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